Strong But Struggling: Men and the Myth of Toughness

Strength, for many men, was never a feeling—it was a requirement. A performance maintained regardless of what was happening underneath. And the longer it is maintained, the harder it becomes to distinguish the performance from the person. Strong But Struggling examines the particular exhaustion that comes from living inside the myth of toughness: the belief that endurance is character, that asking for help is weakness, and that emotional need is something to be managed rather than acknowledged. It looks at how this myth forms early, how it gets reinforced by culture, relationships, and work, and what it quietly costs over the course of a life. This book offers insight into the gap between how many men appear and how they actually feel—and explores why that gap so rarely gets named. It reframes toughness not as something to be discarded, but as something worth examining honestly: understanding where genuine resilience ends and performed invulnerability begins. For any man who has kept going while quietly running on empty—and for anyone trying to understand what that experience actually looks like from the inside—this book explores that tension with depth, honesty, and compassion.

Author of English-language books blending self-help principles, business acumen, and historical lessons. Drawing from timeless strategies, Lena empowers individuals and leaders to thrive in an ever-changing world.